Want a successful marriage? Do these 5 things every day

Introduction

Marriage can be wonderful. It can also be trying at times. A successful marriage requires daily effort, love, and commitment. For Christian women seeking a successful marriage, integrating faith and practical habits can make a significant difference.

In this post, we will explore five essential daily practices that can strengthen the bond between you and your spouse, drawing you closer to God and each other.  

While I could easily make this list 10 or 15 items, I think 5 is a good way to get started. Five is a totally manageable number of items to add to your day – and they won’t take long at all!

Pray Together for successful marriage  

This is the most important first step for a successful marriage. Praying together as a couple strengthens your spiritual connection and aligns your hearts with God’s will. Set aside time each day to pray for each other and your marriage.

Praying as a couple can be awkward. Especially if you don’t normally pray together, it can feel stilted. That’s totally normal. The key is to jump in.  Here’s a great article to get you started praying together.

Not everyone wants to pray together every day (though I encourage you to pray individually every day). Start with once a week. Or before bed every day. The important part is to start somewhere.

Scripture:

For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them. Matthew 18:20

Examples:

Before bed, spend five minutes in prayer together, thanking God for the day and seeking His blessings for the challenges ahead.

Communicate Openly and Honestly for a Successful Marriage   

Open and honest communication leads to trust and mutual understanding. Share your thoughts, feelings, and concerns with each other, and listen actively without judgment. Honest and open communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. This open and honest communication makes it easier to navigate life’s ups and downs together.

This entire website is dedicated to giving you tips to improve your communication and have a thriving marriage and family.

Scripture:

Therefor each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. Ephesians 4:25

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. James 1:19

Examples:

Start each day by asking, “How can I pray for you today?” At the end of the day, ask questions about what’s been going on in your spouse’s life at work. “How did that situation with (person name) go today?” You can also ask staying in love questions – “What’s one thing that went great today?” “What’s one thing you would have changed today?” “How did you serve God well today?”

Express Gratitude for a Successful Marriage

Show appreciation for each other daily. Acknowledge the little things your spouse does and express gratitude to build a positive and loving atmosphere in your home. This one goes a long way.

My husband may not acknowledge when I do these things, but he comments when I don’t do them. That tells me he notices and appreciates my gratitude!

Scripture:

Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Colossians 3:15

Examples:

Leave a sticky note with a thank-you message on the bathroom mirror or send a text during the day appreciating something specific your spouse did.

Send one daily text

This tip is one I use that totally makes a difference in my successful marriage. Send one short text every day telling your spouse what you love about him. This should be simple!

Don’t ask questions, fill it with emojis, or expect a response. Just send the text with love.

You’ll find that you begin thinking of your spouse throughout the day, looking for things to comment on. Your days will become filled with all the little things he does that show love, and you normally overlook. These thoughts will fill your marriage with positivity.

Scripture:

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Philippians 4:8

Examples:

“I love that you washed my car!” “I love when you kiss me goodbye.” “I love that you played ball with (child) today.” “When you picked up the groceries we needed today, I felt extra love for you.” “I love that you work so hard for our family.”

Kiss!

This one seems so simple but in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we tend to neglect kissing. Marriages become so busy that we give each other drive-by kisses instead of the kisses of our youth.   

Make time every day for a good kiss. Get some good lip gloss. Turn off the stove. Tell the kids to wait a minute. Lock lips! I’m not going to tell you to count how long you kiss, but it needs to be more than a peck!

Scripture:

Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine Song of Solomon 1:2

Greet one another with the kiss of love. Peace to all of you who are in Christ. 1 Peter 5:14

Examples:

I don’t think you need examples here. Find an extra moment and kiss your honey!

BONUS: Spend Quality Time Together   

Prioritize spending quality time with each other every day. Doing this is crucial for a strong marriage. It doesn’t have to be long, just dedicated time for you together every day.

Quality time is crucial for maintaining a strong connection with your spouse. It allows you to bond, share experiences, and create lasting memories, reinforcing the love and commitment you have for each other.

This doesn’t have to be anything long and involved. See below for some examples. Whatever you do, be present and fully engaged during these times, setting aside other distractions.

Scripture:

Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun – all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun. Ecclesiastes 9:9

Examples:

Find a show you both enjoy and work your way through it. Take a walk after dinner or early in the morning. Take up a hobby together. Share a cup of coffee or tea before work. Make dinner together. Pray before bed.  

Conclusion

A successful marriage requires intentional effort and commitment. By incorporating daily prayer, open communication, gratitude, a daily text, kissing, and quality time into your relationship, you build a strong foundation rooted in Christian values.

These practices not only draw you closer to each other but also to God, ensuring a marriage that thrives in faith, love, and harmony.

Remember, it’s the small, consistent actions that make the biggest difference in the long run. Start today and watch your marriage flourish.

With love,

🌸 Andrea

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