How To Know When To Give Excuses

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Excuses: The Beginning

I was sitting in the hard pew at church. The cushions were removed due to covid. Only my family was sitting near me. Everyone else was more than 6′ away. The pastor was talking way up front (I’m a rear-church sitter, please don’t judge me). I can’t tell you the songs we sang or the readings for the day.

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So there we were, at the very beginning of 2021. Hard pew, few people, pastor way up front. And the pastor said something that was life-changing for me. As soon as I heard it, the implications for my sanity and my relationships swirled in my head. I didn’t hear anything else he said.

I went home and wrote it down in my Bible study journal. and decided that would be my focal thought for the year for study time. Time passed, and while I thought about it, its importance had paled a bit.

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The Bible brings it back…

But recently the Gospel reading brought me right back to this insight.

John 2:13-22 NLT — It was nearly time for the Jewish Passover celebration, so Jesus went to Jerusalem. 14In the Temple area he saw merchants selling cattle, sheep, and doves for sacrifices; he also saw dealers at tables exchanging foreign money. 15Jesus made a whip from some ropes and chased them all out of the Temple. He drove out the sheep and cattle, scattered the money changers’ coins over the floor, and turned over their tables. 16Then, going over to the people who sold doves, he told them, “Get these things out of here. Stop turning my Father’s house into a marketplace!”

17Then his disciples remembered this prophecy from the Scriptures: “Passion for God’s house will consume me.”c

18But the Jewish leaders demanded, “What are you doing? If God gave you authority to do this, show us a miraculous sign to prove it.”

19“All right,” Jesus replied. “Destroy this temple, and in three days I will raise it up.”

20“What!” they exclaimed. “It has taken forty-six years to build this Temple, and you can rebuild it in three days?” 21But when Jesus said “this temple,” he meant his own body. 22After he was raised from the dead, his disciples remembered he had said this, and they believed both the Scriptures and what Jesus had said.John 2:13-22 NLT — It was nearly time for the Jewish Passover celebration, so Jesus went to Jerusalem. 14In the Temple area he saw merchants selling cattle, sheep, and doves for sacrifices; he also saw dealers at tables exchanging foreign money. 15Jesus made a whip from some ropes and chased them all out of the Temple. He drove out the sheep and cattle, scattered the money changers’ coins over the floor, and turned over their tables. 16Then, going over to the people who sold doves, he told them, “Get these things out of here. Stop turning my Father’s house into a marketplace!”

The Jewish leaders were confused. They thought Jesus meant the literal temple but He meant the temple of His body. It was only much later, after his resurrection, that they realized what He meant. I can just imagine that “aha” moment!

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Here’s What Matters

My pastor reminded us that Jesus didn’t make any excuses. He didn’t clear up the misunderstanding, instead he let time take care of it. He knew that in time the people would understand.

The good news is that there are times for us, too, that we don’t need to make excuses or clear up misunderstandings. Time can bring clarity for us, too. We can trust God to bring understanding to those that need it.

The End of Excuses

This is a huge thought for me. Far too often I jump to my own defense…or my kids’ defense…or my husband’s…you get the idea. I’m ready to explain and then explain some more in an effort to get someone to see my point of view.

But why? Are excuses crucial? Do they need to understand? What would happen if I just let it ride? If I just let God take care of it?

Letting go of the misunderstanding and taking hold of God helps our sanity because we no longer need to sit and stew.

We don’t need to spin with words to clear it up.

Rather, our mental health can rest in knowing that God has everything under control.

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The Beginning of Healthy Relationships

For my relationships this means that I can stop trying to fix everything. I can let God be in control of the relationship, instead of trying to force my own control of the situation. In that time I can rest in relationship instead of struggle. My peace can bring peace to our relationship.

We don’t need to understand everything all the time to have good relationships. With God at the center of our relationships we can trust that He will take care of things in due time.

Certainly, there are times we need to explain a situation or clear up a misunderstanding. But now I’m working on praying first. So now I’m learning to be content in the misunderstandings, knowing that God understands all and will make it right in His time.

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In Peace,

💜 Andrea

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Resources

This book is fantastic for kids – we read this a lot when mine were little and I believe it truly made a difference: No Excuses!: How What You Say Can Get in Your Way by Dr. Wayne W Dyer

This devotional for men by Tony Evans is a great application of his No More Excuses book

Humor is important in life. I think this is next on my list for my kids! The Little Book of Big Excuses: 420 Hilarious Excuses

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I am an author, speaker, and communication professor. My specialty is teaching people how to have successful, faith-based relationships. My passion is to teach people how to live out Scripture in healthy relationships, especially at home. I've been married for 29 years and have two boys - ages 19 and 15. I love to bake to show my love, so you'll sometimes see favorite recipes!

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