Two Kinds of Date Night & Why You Need One

The Scene

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It’s Friday night and I’m wearing a great sundress I bought on ThredUp.

My hair is washed and curled. My nails are painted. I move to the kitchen to put on some strappy heels. They rarely get use any more but date night is a good time to dust them off and enjoy feeling feminine.

A few minutes later, my husband comes out of the bedroom wearing nice jeans and a shirt that totally matches his eyes. He’s freshly shaven and had his hair cut today.

With two kids, three dogs, and a farm full of animals, date night doesn’t happen as often as either of us would like. I’m so excited to go for a nice dinner somewhere, maybe take a walk on the beach, and enjoy some time alone.

Date Night Is Important

Date Nights are important to marriage for lots of reasons. They provide us with an opportunity to connect with this God-ordained relationship without the normal distractions of life. At this time we can take a break from our regular routines and really focus on our spouse.

This connection is crucial for long-term marriage success. The distractions we face every day chip away at our bond, and it becomes all too easy for the enemy to creep in and further destroy our connection.

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Types of Date Night

Not all date nights have to be expensive or time consuming. Nor do they have to happen at night!

My husband and I tend to have two kinds of dates:

• working dates – these are great for planning. We talk about gift buying at birthdays and Christmas; planning for summer and the new year; we discuss the school calendar when it comes out. These are generally lunchtime dates when they kids are at school. I come armed with my list and we work through everything without little ears eavesdropping or little mouths asking questions. This kind of date is crucial for continuing to strengthen the foundation of marriage. Undoubtedly, these logistical issues need to be addressed or miscommunication and calendar conflicts abound.
• romantic dates – these are what most people typically think of as a date. We generally dress up a bit, go out in public, and focus on each other. There may be lots of eye gazing and hand holding. This kind of date is essential for the intimacy part of our marriage. We need to remember why we fell in love with our spouse in the first place. Romantic dates are the perfect place to do that.

Plan a Date

Given these points, now it’s time. Go have some kind of date.

Need a planning date for upcoming holiday or birthday? Make a list and have at it!

Has it been a while since you really looked at your spouse and enjoyed his company? Now’s a great time!

Remember, a date doesn’t have to cost a lot. Most important, just take time to remember why you fell in love with this wonderful person.

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With love,

💖 Andrea

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