How to Reset Your Marriage Mid-Year: A Christian Perspective

We’re midway through the year and it’s a perfect time to reset your marriage! It’s about this time of year that I find my marriage tends to lose steam. The New Year buzz is over; springtime’s feelings of new beginnings are over; school let out, so regular routines go out the window…We’re heading into the dog days of summer when tempers run short and life seems a bit chaotic. This makes it the perfect time for a marriage reset.

June as a natural point to reset your marriage

June, falling halfway through the calendar year, offers a natural pause for reflection and renewal. For Christian marriages, this mid-year moment carries deeper spiritual significance. It’s a time to evaluate not only practical aspects of life but also the spiritual health of the relationship, aligning it with God’s purpose. The midway point serves as an opportunity to set aside distractions and recommit to biblical principles of love, patience, and unity. Additionally, summer’s slower pace—despite its occasional chaos—can open space for meaningful conversations, prayer, and shared spiritual practices. This time invites couples to assess their journey so far and press forward with renewed faith and intentionality, much like the Apostle Paul’s encouragement in Philippians 3:13–14 to forget what lies behind and strain toward what is ahead. If it’s been a long time since you’ve had a reset, now’s a great time to jump in and reset your Christian marriage!

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🙏 5-Step Spiritual Check-In for Christian Couples

1. Pray Together with Honesty and Humility

Start your reset by coming before God together.

• Ask: When was the last time we prayed together outside of meals or crisis?
• Use this moment to invite God into the reset. Ask for God’s help with this process.
• The first step is to begin with gratitude: Thank Him for each other.
• Then ask for help in areas of struggle—communication, intimacy, patience, or understanding.

Scripture to guide this step:
“If two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.” – Matthew 18:19

2. Reflect on the Past 6 Months—Without Blame

Talk about what’s been working and what hasn’t—gently and constructively.

Use these prompts:

• What brought us joy in our marriage so far this year?
• When did we feel most connected?
• What patterns or habits caused frustration or distance?

This is not a time for finger-pointing. Instead, practice listening like Jesus Christ—with love and compassion.

Scripture to guide this step:
“Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19

3. Revisit Your Shared Purpose

Christ-centered marriages aren’t just about co-existing—they’re a covenant and a calling.

Ask:

• What is God calling us to in this season?
• Are we using our marriage as a witness of His love to others?
• What can we do together to build His kingdom (even in small ways)?

You might consider starting a small habit together—like serving in your church, mentoring younger couples, or reading a devotional as a team.

Scripture to guide this step:
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9

4. Reset Your Daily Rhythms of Connection

Even small tweaks in your daily routine can breathe new life into your relationship.

Try:

• A short daily check-in (5 minutes of eye contact and real conversation)
• A weekly walk or coffee together
• Shutting screens off after 9 pm and just being present

Ask: What small changes can we make to be more intentional with each other daily?

Scripture to guide this step:
“Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” – 1 John 3:18

5. Commit to Growing Spiritually—Individually and Together

Your marriage can’t grow if you’re spiritually stagnant.

• Are you each spending regular time in God’s Word?
• Is your home one where Christ is talked about freely?
• Do you talk about what you’re learning in your personal walk?

Spiritual growth as a couple doesn’t mean you must do every devotion side-by-side. But you should encourage each other’s faith and celebrate growth. You encourage each other’s faith journey and support positive change.

Scripture to guide this step:
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” – Proverbs 27:17

How to set mid-year marriage intentions

One essential way we can reset our marriage is through setting marriage intentions. Marriage intentions are sort of like goals or plans for the summer for our marriage that set a solid foundation for the rest of the summer. I focus on summer because it’s shorter range. I prefer intentions that are seasonal for easier revisions as our schedules change. Fall when school starts again is the next time we’ll set intentions.

Sample Marriage Intentions for Christian Wives to Suggest

Give these some thought and discuss with your husband the ones that look best to you. Together brainstorm more ideas. Then pick two or three to focus on for the rest of the summer. Let those practical steps guide your summer activities and conversations to strengthen your faith and your marriage. The ultimate goal is deeper connection with God and each other.

Prioritize Spiritual Growth Together

• Commit to praying together daily, even if only for a few minutes.
• Select a devotional or Bible study to go through as a couple.
• Attend church together weekly and reflect on the sermons afterward. Not involved with a church? Find one here.
• Share personal spiritual insights from your individual walks with Christ.

Cultivate a Deeper Connection

• Schedule regular date nights, even if simple, to focus on each other without distractions.
• Practice active listening during conversations—making time to truly hear one another.
• Set aside one evening a week to share joys, challenges, and prayers for each other. Be sure to focus on the love of God and share that with each other.

Build a Christ-Centered Home

• Establish family prayer or worship time, involving children if you have them.
• Decorate your home with Scripture or items that remind you of God’s promises. Make God a regular part of your life.
• Create yearly traditions around faith, such as reading the Christmas story together or celebrating Easter intentionally. Summer is a great time to plan those traditions, so you are ready when the holidays roll around.

Serve Together

• Find a ministry or outreach opportunity you can do as a couple, such as volunteering at a food bank or mentoring younger couples. You can find great opportunities at your local church or here.
• Be intentional in showing hospitality and opening your home to others.
• Commit to praying for specific people or causes together as a way of interceding for others.

Strengthen Communication

• Practice gratitude by sharing one thing you’re thankful for about the other person daily.
• Do a monthly “check-in” to discuss how the relationship is going and identify areas for growth.
• Work on forgiveness and grace, letting go of minor offenses quickly and discussing larger issues with love and patience.

Focus on Fun and Joy

• Plan one new adventure together—large or small—such as exploring a nearby town or taking a cooking class.
• Set aside time for shared hobbies or try something new you can enjoy as a couple.
• Laugh intentionally—watch a funny show, share memories, or recall inside jokes.

Commit to Growth as Individuals

• Encourage each other to pursue personal goals, whether spiritual, physical, or emotional.
• Support one another’s dreams and discuss ways to help each other succeed. Supporting your husband’s dreams is one way to get close to your husband’s heart.
• Pray for God to reveal areas where you both need to grow and support each other in those areas.

Practice Generosity

• Set financial goals that include giving back to God through tithing or donations.
• Find ways to bless each other with small acts of kindness, such as an unexpected gift or thoughtful note.
• Support someone in need as a couple, whether through time, resources, or encouragement.

These intentions can be adjusted to fit your season of life while keeping God at the center of your marriage. They provide a foundation for growing closer as a couple, strengthening your relationship, and honoring your faith together.

Journaling prompts for wives

Journaling can be a very effective way to plan and implement your marriage reset. Many people think of journaling as a diary, and it can be that. But journaling can also be so much more! I have one journal that’s dedicated to sketches representing insight the Holy Spirit has shared with me. I have another that’s more like a list journal of things to work on and think about. Another journal is a gratitude journal. Finally, another has sketches and thoughts about my life. Be as creative as you want to be – you’re the only one who will see it!

Sample Prompts:

1. Reflect on your personal relationship with God. How can drawing closer to Him strengthen your marriage?

2. Write about your current feelings regarding your marriage. What areas feel strong, and where do you sense a need for growth or healing?

3. List three ways in which you can encourage and support your spouse’s personal goals this week.

4. Reflect on moments when you’ve felt most connected with your spouse. How can you recreate those moments in your daily life?

5. Pray and ask God to reveal areas where you need growth as a wife. What steps can you take to become a better partner in faith and love?

6. Write about how generosity—whether financial, emotional, or spiritual—can play a role in resetting your marriage. Include specific ways you can practice generosity in the coming weeks.

7. Think of a time when God brought restoration or renewal to a challenging situation in your life. How can this testimony encourage hope for you to reset your marriage?

8. Jot down ways you and your spouse can serve others together as an act of unity and love. How does serving strengthen your relationship and honor God?

9. Reflect on how communication impacts your marriage. Are there areas where you could listen better or express yourself more thoughtfully?

10. Write a prayer for your marriage, asking God to guide, equip, and bless your journey together toward renewal.

Use these prompts to invite God into your reflections and to guide your steps to help you reset your marriage in a way that glorifies Him.

Reset your Marriage Prayer

Heavenly Father, thank you for the gift of marriage. Thank you that marriage reflects your relationship with the Church. You love us more than we can ever imagine. Help me to love my spouse as you love him. As we embark on this summer season, guide us into a marriage reset. Help us to begin again – to love each other and you more fully.  I pray we would forgive each other, offer grace every day, and serve you with gladness and singleness of heart. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

❤️ Conclusion:

Resetting your marriage mid-year doesn’t require a vacation or grand gesture—it simply requires intention, prayer, and a little faith.

You can start fresh right now. Together. With God.

Even if things have felt distant or dry, God can breathe new life into your relationship.

Take this week to walk through these five steps. Journal together. Pray together. Laugh together. And trust that He who began a good work in you—will carry it to completion.

“Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on…” – Philippians 3:13–14

With love,

🌸 Andrea

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