Spenders & Savers I’m a saver and my husband is a spender. He still pays off debt and pays the bills, but he enjoys spending money, whereas I enjoy watching it grow in the bank. As I’m sure you can imagine, this difference has caused conflict over the years. We’ve …
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Building a Strong Foundation: Communication in Newlywed Marriages When I was a newlywed, I thought our communication would always be great – like it was when we were dating. I thought it would all be hearts and flowers and he would listen like the man of my dreams that he …
The power of a story My husband loves to tell the story of when he first came to visit me at my house when we started dating. At the time I was living with my parents at home. I told him to “make a left at the (local) church, come …
Disenchanted When we get married we are filled with joyful anticipation. We imagine this ideal life with the person we just pledged to love forever. Maybe your “happily ever after” means you do things together, or he helps out around the house. Perhaps your dream involves each of you doing …
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Ah, the perfect husband Sounds amazing, doesn’t it? He knows and responds to our every need. The perfect husband listens and remembers what we say. He puts our needs above his own. He picks up his socks and closes the toilet seat. This man also cleans the kitchen and keeps …
The setting My husband is an amazing planner – he can plan a great date better than anyone I know. He plans where we are going for dinner and if we are going to do something after. He gets his heart set on his plan and is as giddy as …
His hobby…and my hobby My husband has a hobby. Actually, he has two. He loves hunting and ham radio. He learns about each of them, watches YouTube videos about them, attends conferences, and generally spends his free time learning to be better at these things. I like to sew and …
Our divorce story We were married five years. I never planned to file for divorce. Life was hitting us pretty hard. We were both (still) in school, and I was working full time. I’d just been accepted to a graduate program in another state. We decided to live apart for …
Hobbies in marriage can happen by chance or by design. My husband and I sort of fell into a hobby lately. I’ve always enjoyed cooking and baking. A couple of years ago he bought a big green egg. And his new hobby began! Together we have a cooking hobby. He …
“I’ll take out that trash for you,” my husband says as he walks through the kitchen. I am already pulling the bag from the can. “My hero,” I think. Other days my husband carries in the groceries from my car. Or he fixes the fences around the farm. Some days …