6 Ways to Deepen Your Connection with Your Spouse at Home
When you were dating it was easy to find connection. You’d go on dates, ask great questions, and voila! You’d grow closer together.
Fast forward a few years. Between work, the kids, and dogs/cats, life is pretty busy and connecting with your spouse seems like an impossibility. But I’m here to tell you that it’s easier than you think. It just takes some planning and dedication.
Let’s dive in! Here are six ways Christian spouses can connect at home:
Start Your Day with a Joint Prayer or Devotional Time
Beginning your day with God sets a positive tone for your marriage. By praying together or sharing a devotional, you invite God’s presence into your relationship. When we start our day with God we are focusing on what really matters. God has a perfect plan for your life and prayer aligns you with His plan.
Here’s a great article about getting started with prayer.
Scripture:
“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” — Matthew 18:20 (NIV)
Practical Tips:
- Set a specific time each morning for your devotional.
- Choose a devotional book or plan that interests both of you.
- Take turns leading the prayer or discussion.
Reflection Questions:
- How can we support each other spiritually?
- What specific prayers do we need to lift up together today?
Set Aside a Regular Date Night at Home
Date nights are essential for maintaining a romantic and intimate connection. When we have a date we can focus on each other, and that gets overlooked in everyday life. Lunch dates can be super helpful for being productive and good for problems solving. Evening dates are great for romantic connection.
Even if you can’t go out, create special moments at home. Doing this can be inexpensive and take only a little bit of time. We’ve put on a movie in the evening and retreated to our bedroom for a date. That doesn’t mean we were romantic, just that we had quiet space there to connect and talk.
Scripture:
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine.” — Song of Solomon 1:2 (NIV)
Practical Tips:
- Plan a theme night, such as Italian dinner and movie, or a picnic in the living room.
- Dress up for each other to make it feel special.
Reflection Questions:
- What activities do we both enjoy?
- How can we keep our date nights fun and engaging?
Share Your Favorite Scriptures and Discuss Them Together
Discussing Scripture together allows you to grow spiritually and emotionally. It helps you understand each other’s faith journey and perspectives. When you understand each other you build connection.
When we discuss Scripture, we grow in our knowledge of God and our connection to each other. It’s okay if you don’t have specific Scriptures you love. Use your daily devotional to act as a springboard for verse discussion.
Scripture:
“Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.” — Colossians 3:16 (NIV)
Practical Tips:
- Choose a specific book of the Bible to read together or select random verses to discuss.
- Share why each verse is meaningful to you.
Reflection Questions:
- What does this Scripture teach us about God’s love?
- How can we apply it to our marriage?
Serve Together in a Ministry or a Charitable Activity, Even from Home
Serving others as a team can bring you closer and align your hearts with God’s purpose. You can find ways to serve from home, such as virtual volunteering or preparing care packages. Not sure how to find a good volunteering opportunity? Check out this link for a volunteer match.
Scripture:
“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” — 1 Peter 4:10 (NIV)
Practical Tips:
- Identify a cause you both care about.
- Look for online volunteer opportunities or projects you can do together at home.
Reflection Questions:
- How can our unique skills and passions be used to serve others?
- What impact do we hope to make together?
Make Time for Daily Check-Ins to Share Your Feelings and Concerns
Daily check-ins help you stay connected and support each other emotionally. It’s a time to share your thoughts, feelings, and any concerns you may have. Daily check-ins are a great time to practice effective communication skills, too. Practice listening skills and you’ll be off to a great start!
Scripture:
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)
Practical Tips:
- Set aside 10-15 minutes each day to talk without distractions.
- Use this time to listen actively and provide encouragement.
Reflection Questions:
- How are you feeling today?
- Is there anything you need support with?
- How can I help you today? (then be sure to do it!)
Read a Christian Book Together and Discuss the Insights
Reading a Christian book together can provide fresh perspectives and deepen your faith. It’s a way to learn and grow together. Sacred Marriage is my all-time favorite marriage book. If you don’t have a book to start with, start here.
Scripture:
“Do not let wisdom and understanding out of your sight, preserve sound judgment and discretion; they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck.” — Proverbs 3:21-22 (NIV)
Practical Tips:
- Choose a book that interests both of you.
- Set a reading schedule and discuss each chapter together.
Reflection Questions:
- What key takeaways did you get from this chapter?
- How can we apply these insights to our marriage?
Wrapping Up
These practices can help you build a strong, Christ-centered marriage. By intentionally making time for each other and prioritizing your relationship, you can deepen your connection and grow together in faith and love.
With love,
🌸 Andrea
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I am an author, speaker, and communication professor. My specialty is teaching people how to have successful, faith-based relationships. My passion is to teach people how to live out Scripture in healthy relationships, especially at home. I've been married for 29 years and have two boys - ages 19 and 15. I love to bake to show my love, so you'll sometimes see favorite recipes!
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